End of Ramadhan

It's already the last day of Ramadhan (since Maghrib marks a new day in Hijri calendar)-- which also means that tomorrow is Syawal aka Eid ul-Fitr. It's a 'Yayyy' for some people but it's a 'Nayyy' for me.

I've always hated Aidilfitri (Eid ul-Fitr sounds too posh for me). I don't think i have ever been tremendously excited or anticipate the arrival of Syawal.

I don't know how far is the truth of this story.

Ada orang cakap, apabila datangnya Ramadhan Al-Mubarak, kesemua ahli kubur dibenarkan untuk pulang ke rumah untuk melawat ahli-ahli keluarga mereka. Ramadhan is a month of Forgiveness. Dalam waktu itu, mereka akan bebas dari dihisab dan bebas untuk ke mana-mana. Pada waktu itulah mereka akan meninjau dan memerhati gelagat keluarga mereka.

Kita tak boleh lupa bahawa di hujung Ramadhan, tatkala azan Maghrib pada hari terakhir puasa berkumandang, Syawal juga tiba, dan ketika itu, mereka akan dibawa pulang ke liang lahad masing-masing. Dalam erti kata lain, mereka akan terus dihisab seperti bulan-bulan lain. Mereka akan menangis dan terus menangis mengenangkan ahli keluarga yang harus ditinggalkan; proses hisab yang akan terus dilalui sehingga datangnya Ramadhan pada tahun seterusnya.

My advice: Jangan takbir raya sebelum waktunya. You're only reminding them on the arrival of Syawal. You're only reminding them of the 'hisab' they have to go through. Every time you takbir before you should, you're only making them cry and putting them in despair. 

I have never looked forward to Syawal as i'm always aware that they're leaving us. Knowing that your loved ones are leaving, that's heartbreaking. Knowing that they are crying/begging to stay a little bit longer, that sucks.

If only we could see them and tell them how much we miss them, how much love them, how different it is without them being around, that would be nice. To have a conversation with them, that's wow.

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